How to Keep Wedding Planning Under Control
Getting engaged is an incredibly joyous moment in your life. However, once the reality of planning a wedding starts to sink in, the thought of planning such a large and expensive event can be daunting. This is especially true if you’ve never planning large, elaborate events before. After all, event planning is a full time job for some. Is it realistic for every bride and groom to think that they can handle the challenge and complexity of planning a wedding? Well, the first thing you should do is take a deep breath and relax. Wedding planning can be manageable and doesn’t need to get out of control. Here are some tips and advice for keeping the wedding planning process under control.
1. Determine what’s important to you
When you are first engaged, you are head over heels excited and have every right to be! Most people dream about their wedding before they even meet their future spouses. Actually becoming engaged means that you get to start living out your dreams. Mixed into that excitement comes telling all of your family and friends that you are getting married. Everyone will have their opinion on what you should do and how you should do it. After hearing what everyone has to say on the matter, you can quickly become confused and overwhelmed. If you find yourself feeling this way, take a step back and find a quiet moment for yourself. What kind of people are you and your fiancé? Are you casual or formal people? Do you like and respect traditions or do you forge your own path? Who do you want to spend the day celebrating with? Mostly friends or do you want your extended families there? These are the kind of questions you will need to answer first because they will determine the tone and style of the wedding you will plan. Once you determine the style of your wedding, you can start thinking of other fundamental elements such as the venue and size of your event.
2. Do Some Budgeting
One of the biggest stress factors of a wedding is the cost. Unless you are planning something completely barebones, your wedding will probably be the most expensive event that you plan. While money is rarely a fun topic of discussion, you need to know how much money you have to spend before you can start planning and hiring vendors. Once you and your fiancé have a serious discussion about budget and available funds, your choices of vendors, venue and attire will be clear. Most couples will find themselves having to make tradeoffs between the size of their guests list and the number of different elements they can have at their wedding. This tradeoff is natural but don’t shy away from it. This is the first of a series of decisions you will have to make about your wedding. You have to get this one right in order to make the other decisions.
3. Consider Hiring a Professional
Not every couple has the skills or passion needed for planning a wedding. This is where professional wedding planners are valuable. Not only will they help you plan the day but they will be a sounding board for you to bounce ideas off of and collaborate on the vision of your day. Wedding planners are also very well connected in the industry. They can help secure preferred pricing with venues and vendors and ensure that you can truly relax and enjoy your wedding.
4. Select the Venue
Selecting the venue will be one of the more challenging parts of planning but it’s also one of the most important because other choices like catering, music and décor will fall into place once the venue is selected. Popular venues are booked well in advance, so you need to select your venue quickly.
5. Trust your instincts
When planning your wedding, it’s important that you trust your instincts and don’t second guess yourself. Asking advice or soliciting opinions from family and friends is perfectly fine but don’t let their ideas cloud your vision. Remember, it’s your day to celebrate your relationship. Don’t lose sight of the purpose of the day.