How to Write Your Own Wedding Vows
When preparing for your wedding, it’s easy to get caught up in planning all of the elements that go into making the day beautiful. From dress shopping, floral arraignments, cake and menu tastings, it’s easy to forget what it’s all for – the union of two people in love. It’s important to remember that the wedding is just one day in you and your future spouse’s life. A strong marriage will last you a lifetime. So, while you are planning your wedding ensure you spend time reflecting on the union you are about to embark on and all that it represents. While wedding planning will envelop your life for a few months or a year, it will end up being just a single moment in time. While the actual act of getting married will change your life forever. So while you prepare for your wedding, devote enough time to think about and write your wedding vows. The words that you exchange during your ceremony will be some of the most important words that you say that will change your life forever. While you gaze into your spouse’s eyes during the ceremony, you will be happy that you took the time to think about your vows and what they mean.
You don’t particularly need to be a talented writer to prepare deep and meaningful vows. You just need to focus on your fiancé and your relationship. Who you are as individuals and as a couple and what you want your marriage to be. To help you write vows for your upcoming nuptials, here are some tips that will help you along with the writing process.
1. Give yourself plenty of time
While you know in your heart what you feel for your fiancé and what you envision for your life together, putting those thoughts and images into words can be challenging. As such, give yourself ample amount of time to write your vows. It’s easy to procrastinate and put other wedding planning elements ahead of writing your vows. But flowers, décor and outfits can be easily chosen but finding the right words can take time. So start the writing process early and prioritize accordingly.
2. Be yourself
Just because a wedding ceremony is a formal event, doesn’t mean that your vows have to sound formal. Use your own words and speak from the heart. Describe your feelings and emotions as if the two of you are the only ones in the room. Once you get started, you can edit and rephrase sections to ensure that your words will move your fiancé.
3. Keep it simple
When writing your vows, there’s no harm in keeping things short and sweet. Brainstorm ideas and themes that you want to incorporate into your vows, start writing and then keep editing and making revisions. You will eventually land on the final version that you will recite at your ceremony.
4. Consult with your Officiant
Once your vows are ready, review them with your Officiant to make sure you both know what the other person is saying. This way you can avoid duplication and make sure there aren’t any gaps in your ceremony.
The last piece of advice to focus on the future and the commitment you are making to each other. If you make sure your vows clearly communicate your promise and intent, you have accomplished the purpose of these special words.